Millennials Don’t Cook: A Personal Explanation

A good friend of mine, a Gen X-er, once said that, among many other grievances he has with my generation, we millennials just don't cook. Because I wasn't present for that particular conversation, and because I find generational differences fascinating, I thought I'd add my own thoughts here. The first of which, when I first heard … Continue reading Millennials Don’t Cook: A Personal Explanation

Lessons I Learned in 2018

--Take care of yourself, but not at the constant expense of someone else. Know your limits. If you can do something, keep your commitment. And if you can't, learn how to say no, preferably before you commit to something, or early on thereafter. When other people's time and energy are involved--whether it's something as simple … Continue reading Lessons I Learned in 2018

A Critique of “Why the Popular Phrase “Women and Femmes” Makes No Sense”

So, this piece came out yesterday, delivering a pretty solid critique of the oft touted phrase "women and femmes," to group together two types of people that experience gendered oppression. As someone who also finds the phrase inappropriate at times, I often found the author's analysis spot on. Particularly concerning the phrase's usage in the … Continue reading A Critique of “Why the Popular Phrase “Women and Femmes” Makes No Sense”

In Which I Revisit LGBT Ageism with…mixed results

I'm coming back to this mostly because I have to--I don't like starting a post then leaving halfway through but sometimes it's just one of those days, you know? Anyway, the point I was going for in the original post was that...I'm really fucking tired of older gays assuming all of us young queers are … Continue reading In Which I Revisit LGBT Ageism with…mixed results

Some Preliminary Thoughts on the Limits of Social Justice Discourse

A while back, I had a few genderqueer college kids come through the cafe. After I had rung them up, they sat at the table closest to my counter, whereupon they began to talk about drag culture. One of them said something along the lines of "I appreciate the history and the creative outlet it … Continue reading Some Preliminary Thoughts on the Limits of Social Justice Discourse

*Cough* Making Straight White Guys the Villains in Your Art Isn’t As Radical As You Think It Is *Cough*

  It's too easy. It's an obvious choice. Certainly, making that type of person a villain can comment on the banality of evil--how privilege can make you into an antagonist without your knowing it. And can give way to some interesting existential examinations. Sadly, however, this angle isn't being taken advantage of, and instead falls … Continue reading *Cough* Making Straight White Guys the Villains in Your Art Isn’t As Radical As You Think It Is *Cough*